Surely you’ve heard the good old saying, “You can’t control other people. You can only control your reaction to them.”
This is an important fact to remember, as you’re going to run into a lot of people that aren’t so nice. Some of these people will be complete strangers – maybe a rude person in the parking lot or grocery store. Others will be people you know and are close to, such as a family member or significant other.
While it’s natural to feel anger or even hatred toward someone who wronged you, it’s not the best approach. You’re going to be a happier and more forgiving person if you show grace. After all, everyone is struggling in their own ways. This does not excuse poor behavior, but it will help you take things less personally.
So how exactly can you control your emotions toward someone who has angered you? Below we share some helpful tips for managing your emotions, even in the most stressful situations.
YOU are in Charge of Your Reactions. Here’s How to Control Them.
The next time you are faced with a situation that elicits strong feelings, take control with these tips:
Take a deep breath.
Instead of reacting right away, take a deep breath. This gives you a micro-moment to process what happened. It’s okay not to react right away. In fact, if you need to, you can excuse yourself and take a step away.
Find out what you are feeling.
As you take a moment to pause, think about why you’re feeling such strong emotions. On the surface, you might think that you’re feeling upset because the other person is being mean. But is there more to the story? What is it that makes you feel triggered?
Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts.
Even though the brain tends to automatically go to the negative stuff, try to replace it with positive thinking. This could be remembering some of the nice things the person has done for you.
Do something to release your energy.
Human emotions are powerful, so the only way to get rid of negative energy may be to physically release it. Go for a run or ride your bike through the forest preserve. Hopefully, you’ll feel much better afterward.
Explore your emotions.
If you are still feeling upset, try to process your emotions through journaling or talking to a transformative life coach in Los Angeles. This can help you understand your feelings so that you can better control them.
Avoid taking things personally.
We are often the center of our own universes. But in reality, what people do typically has nothing to do with us. It has to do with them. By recognizing this, you can free yourself from the what-ifs and overthinking in general.
Realize you can’t change others.
Truly, you have no control over what others say and do. If you try to control others, you’re likely going to end up disappointed and upset. You’re worrying, obsessing or ‘fixing’ only impacts you – not the other person.
Learn to Change Your Reactions for Less Stress and Better Relationships
Once you realize that you don’t have control over others, you can learn to let go and lead a more full and gratifying life that aligns with your goals.
Jack Rourke is one of the best psychics in Los Angeles. He works with many clients who hope to change their emotional reactions to others. Through these sessions, Jack can help you understand why you feel strong emotions and how to better cope with unpleasant interactions. To schedule a psychic reading at your convenience, contact Jack today!